wow. just...wow

So, I went to message a (ex)friend today to inform her that, after a particularly grueling semester in school, I finally have the time to work on her gift. (I make crocheted baby blankets for friends expecting little ones) I found out she unfriended me. Now, this may have been the result of a message sent telling her that she needs time to herself and not to feel bad about leaving her asshole husband to take care of the baby (I left the "asshole" out of the original message; however, now that we're no longer "friends" I am entitled to speak my opinion-please don't think less of me).  I've seen him on Xbox, I assume he spends his "working" time on Fcebook since he frequently comments on Todd's statuses, etc,. I don't think Todd logged on Xbox or anything for the first few months after Jack was born and he was an easy baby without any health concerns and I wasn't a neurotic mess. I just needed help from my husband. And he was happy to help because he's not a dick. Really, at her age, comments like "you deserve a break" followed up by sharing a story of someone in a similar situation (which was meant to make her feel as though she is not alone and it's possible to not go insane from it) should not be construed as "OMG I HATE YOU AND YOU'RE A HORRIBLE PERSON/FRIEND/MOTHER AND *INSERT RANDOM PERSON HERE* HAS NO IDEA WHAT THEY'RE TALKING ABOUT AND CONSIDERING I'VE NEVER BEEN IN YOUR SITUATION I OBVIOUSLY KNOW WHAT'S BEST" or whatever possibly offensive thing you can imagine.

I've known said person for approx. 4 years. We were friends of convenience. However, my bluntness and her low self-esteem generally ended up as me saying something offensive. I should not have to censor myself with a supposed friend. I never said anything like "omg, you're fat" or "you suck in every way possible" yet my comments somehow always had underlying meanings that were generally negative.

So I will lay it out for everyone to understand: If I mean to offend you, I will. If I say "hmmm, well that sounds odd" DOES NOT MEAN I THINK YOU ARE ODD OR THAT YOUR SITUATION IS NOT AS IMPORTANT AS ANYONE ELSE'S. It's simply me pondering the situation aloud. I'm sooooo sorry for offending you. That being said, I appreciate it when people call me on my mistakes when I make them. Not a week later; three weeks later or (as once happened) MONTHS later. Seriously, you've been dwelling on the issue for that long? Get over it. You're THIRTY YEARS OLD. Put on some big girl panties and suck it up. Not everyone is out to get you.

Now, considering I just wrote a rant about growing up at our age, I should mention that I'm also not 12. I just can't stand when people can't just grow up and tell me what's up. However, I can now enjoy my winter break between semesters by not working myself into a carpal tunnel attack. Although, I do know someone that is having a baby girl soon and perhaps be appreciative of a hand made baby blanket (actually, I KNOW she would be.)